Happy July! June kind of flew by so I’m excited for a little bit of a slower pace this month. I have been getting a lot of questions since we announced that we are adopting. Therefore I thought I would write a post answering the most frequently asked questions.
What kind of adoption are you hoping for?
We are currently pursuing a domestic, newborn adoption. There’s a lot of factors and prayer that went into our decision, but surprisingly it was my husband who had his heart set on a newborn. Once he said that, and I let my brain go there, I became attached to the idea too. I would be thrilled if I could nurse the baby and our whole house is abuzz preparing for “baby” even though it is most likely a LONG way off.
Do you want a boy or a girl? Special needs?
We are a house divided. My husband would love a daughter and I would love a football team of boys. That being said, we both will be thrilled whether it’s a boy or a girl. As far as special needs, we are leaving that up to God. He knows the baby He has planned for this family and we don’t want to limit Him.
Why is adopting so expensive?
The agency we are working with right now explained to us that the cost is so high because 2 out of every 3 birth moms change their mind. The agencies pay for the housing and medical care of these mothers who are considering adoption, but of course can’t require that they give up their babies (wouldn’t that be just awful?). That increases the price of the adoptions that do go through just so these companies can keep their doors open. There are also a lot of other fees (lawyer, etc.) that come with adopting.
Where are you in the process?
Right now we are preparing for our home study. The home study costs $1250 plus there were some things we had to buy around the home in order to pass the home study. We currently have about a third of the money we need for the home study. We are getting ready to have a fundraiser yard sale/bake sale this weekend to try and close that gap. Once we have the money, we can turn in all the paperwork for the home study and begin that process.
What are your fundraising plans?
After our home study is complete, I plan on applying for any and every grant I can find that is applicable to our situation. I have a whole list of organizations that reward small grants so hopefully some of them will choose to help us out. On top of that I have a friend who is going to be doing a Jamberry Nails fundraiser for us the last week of July and another friend who is going to do a Lilla Rose fundraiser for us in August (If you want to participate in either of those be sure to join us on our Facebook page. If you don’t have Facebook, then just message me your address and I’ll make sure you get the information when it’s time.) We also have a crowd funding site here and anything that is purchased through my site goes straight towards the adoptions (Amazon affiliate links, e-products, etc.).
I’m not going to lie, it seems like an impossible task to raise this money. However, a sweet friend encouraged me the other day – if God has called us to adopt, then He is going to provide for this baby to be in our home. We shouldn’t even worry about it. (Easier said than done.)
Have you given up having more biological children?
No, we have not given up the idea of having more biological children. While having repeated miscarriages and a newly diagnosed autoimmune disease has taken it’s toll on us, we aren’t going to limit ourselves. If God could help barren Sarah in Genesis conceive and bear a child at the ripe old age of 90, then he can help this Sarah in Arizona conceive and bear more children too. 🙂 However, we aren’t being proactive about trying to conceive a child right now. Our focus is on the baby growing in our hearts.
I think that about answers all the questions we get asked the most often. Pray for our yard sale this Saturday. Last time we had a yard sale we got all of four customers and then spent hours sitting there with not a single car. Then when I went to pick up our signs they were all gone – someone had removed them. Fun times. 😉