Our Adoption Home Study Experience
We just finished up our last adoption home study meeting and it is beginning to feel real. As soon as we get the approval from the court system I will have all the documents I need to begin applying for scholarships and grants. The Lord has miraculously provided every cent of the $3000 we needed to get placed in the matchbook. Watching Him provide has been incredibly humbling and truly amazing.
Before our home study began I found myself perusing other blogs trying to get a feel for what it would be like. Our experience was very different from a lot of what I had read online and so I thought I would share. The company we went through told us they really try to go above and beyond what is required in order to have the healthiest experience possible.
Before we could begin our home study we had to attend a bunch of classes that counseled us on a lot of the issues that come up with adoption, including the laws, and also touched on the benefits of open adoption.
After the classes we had a load of paperwork we had to complete for the home study. It was very in-depth and asked questions about our child hood, our marriage, our extended families, our life experiences that shaped who we are, our relationship with God, our parenting philosophy and more. We also had to get physicals at the doctor’s office, get our fingerprints done, have close family and friends fill out references, fill out an extensive budget inventory, and complete a variety of other paperwork.
The home study itself consisted of different meetings with our caseworker. One meeting she sat down and interviewed us on our family histories. She said that sometimes, at this point in the study, they refer couples to counseling if any issues come up that may need to be worked through in order to have an emotionally healthy home.
Another meeting she went over these marriage surveys my husband and I had to take online. We talked about our strengths and weaknesses within our marriage and discussed how adding a child through adoption will affect different aspects of our marriage.
My husband and I each had to go through a solitary interview discussing different answers we had given on our marriage surveys and on the huge packet we had to fill out about our background and life experiences.
Another meeting she interviewed our children on household responsibilities, discipline procedures, and their views on adoption and she did a walk-through of our house checking for safety measures specifically with swimming pools and guns.
The process took awhile, but we are finally at the end. Now we are just waiting for the official word of approval.
Everyday I wonder if our baby has been conceived yet. I pray for him or her and the birth parents. I pray that God will knit joy and resiliency into the very fiber of that baby’s being. I pray that God will protect and comfort the birth mom (and dad!) and give her a supernatural peace about the very hard decision she has to make.
Once we are official, we will be placed in the matchbook and it could be anytime after that depending on finances. We will have to raise about $20,000. We already have some of it, but I’m hoping to raise most of the money through scholarships, grants, and my Young Living business. I have no doubt God will provide, but this whole process has definitely been a huge step of faith for us.
So that is our home study experience. If you’ve ever adopted, I would love to hear how yours was similar or different!